Men In Relationships

M.I.R. Why Emotional Intelligence Is More Important Than IQ For Men In Relationships

Emotional intelligence will lead to connection. We will not know how to have emotional intimacy without emotional intelligence. Both are fundamental pieces to ensuring the success of your relationship.

One of the main fundamental human needs is belonging. Intellectual intelligence alone can not provide this.

If you are a driven man, who strives for goals, and wants to pursue fulfilment, then chances are you haven’t spent as much time developing your emotional intelligence as you should.

It’s a common pattern that driven men fall into. That doesn’t make you a bad person. That simply means you need to develop emotional intelligence. This episode will help you do that.

 

If you have any questions, want to connect, or want to work with me, I'd love to hear from you. Send me an email to, 

coaching@joelmahe.ca

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Truly hope this helps,

 

Joel

M.I.R. Creating A Shared Life Vision To Avoid Codependency

I was a bachelor for many years, only living for myself. I think (external success is a much easier game when you are going at it solo)… You can put your head down and eliminate all "distractions". What we forget to think about is that sometimes what we consider a distraction is actually the most important piece of our life. That was my story at the start of my relationship, and I will share how I changed that narrative. 

In this podcast, we will talk about why it is necessary to get clear and declare what you truly need as an individual. So many men and couples will not articulate what they need to their partner because they don’t want to create friction or conflict. This can lead to codependency, and the next thing you know 5 years into your relationship you have become resentful and don’t feel yourself. Often, that will lead to overcompensating actions and/or defence mechanisms that lead to poor behaviour. 

This episode is filled with strategies and concepts that will enable you to create a life vision that inspires you and that embodies you and your partner's individual needs and desires. There doesn't need to be a sacrifice. You and your partner can have it all!

 

If you have any questions, want to connect, or want to work with me, I'd love to hear from you. Send me an email to, 

coaching@joelmahe.ca

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Enjoy!

 

Joel

 

M.I.R. The Necessary Identity Shift To Save Your Relationship

Identity-  Is not a fixed concept. It is a set of qualities and beliefs that make one person or group different from others…. We can change our qualities/ characteristics/interests and beliefs.

We base our identity on what we’ve done in the past when we really should be basing it on who we want to become.

In today's show, I will talk about the ability to change your identity. One of the best ways of doing this is getting extremely clear on the type of person we want to become. There is a great exercise for this that I will share. Supplementary to this exercise we will explore:

-A discussion on the pain vs pleasure scale to determine why it is necessary to live as a new version of ourselves? 

-Different reminders/triggers to keep you in line with this new version.

-Catching yourself being the old version. (Reflection, redirection, compassion).

-Why we do the thing we do. Most times this is unconscious. 

 

How can you begin to shift your identity today? Who do you want to become, what is the next version of yourself in your relationship?

Becoming that version NOW, living from that place will begin to improve your relationship.

This isn’t only for our partner, this is for you! Your happiness, health, and lifestyle depend on it. 

This episode will help you to begin your identity shift today. Sometimes, we need a slight course correction in our identity to create a successful relationship. Enjoy the listen and take the aligned action to change your relationship and your life.

 

If you have any questions, want to connect, or want to work with me, I'd love to hear from you. Send me an email to, 

coaching@joelmahe.ca

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Joel

M.I.R. Why Changing Your Beliefs Will Change Your Relationship.

When I reverse engineered the process that I went through to transform myself and my relationship the first step was believing I could. 

I know, I know... This sounds like a bunch of B.S. and fluff. It might, but ultimately who cares if it works!

Unfortunately changing a belief isn't necessarily easy. Fortunately, there is a process for it and is fundamentally possible for any person. 

If you are struggling right now in your relationship and you are frustrated that you keep running up against the same problems, then changing certain beliefs about yourself and your relationship is probably the first step to receiving new results.

This is the first step in my program "Emotional Evolution Process" because I am convinced that this is the initiating step to becoming a better man to cultivate a better relationship.

In this episode, I will break down the process of how to replace unwanted beliefs. 

P.S. I always want to add a disclaimer that information is great... However, it is the implementation and integration that is the hard part, and probably the most important. 

I'm here for you if you ever need any assistance.

 

Check out my program The Emotional Evolution Process for men in relationships:👇🏼https://www.canva.com/design/DAE8vvGGnCY/0A7bObUrnxLSVOSAtoQmuA/view?utm_content=DAE8vvGGnCY&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link&utm_source=publishsharelink

 

I'd love to connect:👇🏼

If you have any questions, want to connect, or want to work with me, I'd love to hear from you. Send me an email to, 

coaching@joelmahe.ca

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M.I.R.-The Way Out Of A Stagnant Relationship. Why A Healthy Relationship Is Important.

Are you losing connection and desire in your relationship? Would you define your relationship as healthy or stagnant? 

We are supposed to be in an incredible relationship, it's what all the movies and society tell us, right?

But do you ever take the time to understand WHY it is important for YOU to be in a relationship? Do you comprehend or even reflect on these reasons?

I believe it is crucial to reflect and understand all of the reasons we want to have a healthy relationship. Not a relationship where you just get by, where you settle, where there is no connection, where there is no conflict simply to avoid the pain... rather an incredible expansive growing relationship.

Relationships are a continual evolution, they are not a maintenance-free dynamic. We must continually work on our relationships to create and maintain a soul mates. It is our responsibility to cultivate a healthy relationship, and without understanding why we need to do this we will most likely not put in the effort since it's more work. 

In this episode I will share my perspective on this topic, providing some principles and foundations for a healthy relationship.

Men, if you are starting to lose connection with your partner then this episode is a must listen to gain awareness of what might need to happen to turn things around.

 

I'd love to connect. Reach out to me if you are looking to make changes in your relationship!

 

If you have any questions, want to connect, or want to work with me, I'd love to hear from you. Send me an email to, 

coaching@joelmahe.ca

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Enjoy the episode! 

Joel:)

 

 

M.I.R.- How to get to the root of emotions to minimize conflict

When we don't fully understand where our emotions stem from, our natural tendency will be to react to them, rather than explore and redirect them. This can have a negative impact on your relationship.

In this episode, I will talk about:

-How to spot limiting beliefs in your relationship

-Share stories of my limiting beliefs

-The reasons we have limiting beliefs/their origins (They don't make us bad people)!

-How to overcome limiting beliefs.

 

I'm so happy to be back in the podcast seat, and I hope you enjoy this episode!

P.S. If you have any questions or want to connect please reach out to me, I'd love to chat!

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P.P.S. I've created an amazing 4 pillar program to help men evolve their emotional habits, in order to create a successful relationship. ( I created this because it is something I wish I had when I was struggling in my relationship). If this is something that interests you, send me a message! :)

Men In Relationships (MIR) Intro Episode

I have re-branded the podcast!!

I am extremely passionate about helping men in relationships, so I will be revolving my message around that.

I think it's so important for a man to continually work on his inner and outer relationships. Doing this in my life has completely transformed who I am (In a much better way). Not only has it saved/ improved my own romantic relationship, but it has improved my entire quality of life. 

I hope you will join me in this journey, and I look forward to interacting with you all!

It‘s Time To Pivot

This is the final episode of Surrendering Average! 

Along our journey we usually need to make pivots, in order to course correct to ensure we are staying aligned to our life's mission and vision.

I will fill you in with where I am heading and what the next chapter looks like for me. Don't worry I will be creating a new podcast in the near future!

 

Take care everybody, and I hope you will follow along with my next podcast, and future work.:) 

 

Joel

Relationships- How To Shorten Arguments And Reduce The Recovery Period

Long drawn out arguments that would stay unsettled for a long period of time was something that Jess and I used to struggle with a lot. There would be a disagreement and the energy in the air didn't seem to settle for a long period of time.

I can proudly say we have come a loooong way since those days. We certainly aren't perfect, but we have made massive progress in this area. 

In today's show I wanted to share how we have made these improvements, and how you can implement these strategies in your relationships.

 

Enjoy,

 

Joel

Implementation And Integration Beyond Information

Do you find yourself reading countless books, listening to multiple podcasts, and yet still haven't seen any tangible results?? This episode will break down all the reasons why this might be happening to you. 

It is absolutely incredible how much information is available in the world today! We are living during an amazing time where we can basically learn anything we want at a very low cost.

Unfortunately, information is not enough to experience change or attain new results. As much as we'd like it to (trust me, I was there) there is simply no way around going through the process, and it is necessary to integrate and implement newly learned information to actually experience the results we are seeking.

Albert Einstein once said, "Information is not knowledge. The only source of knowledge is experience. You need experience to gain wisdom".

Today I will break down 4 concepts that might be holding you back from gaining wisdom and actually implementing and integrating all of that information you've been acquiring.  I will also lay out the first 3 necessary steps that helped me to implement new information.

This episode can be the first step to experiencing the results you are seeking, but you must be willing to implement the information;)

 

Joel